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Every Champion Needs A Coach

Cynthia Murray: Posted Friday, January 31, 2014

What athlete takes to the field, balance beam, track or slopes without a coach? It'a a rhetorical question because the answer is so obvious. Every athlete, let alone Superbowl stars and Olympic Gold Medalists needs a coach, someone to help them to achieve their goals and perhaps even legendary greatness.


But it's not just athletes who need the guidance, support and encouragement of a coach. Anyone who wants to achieve their own personal goals and be the champion of their own life needs a coach, whether he or she is a professional life or executive coach or an informal guide such as a mentor or pastor.


Raw talent is often not enough to win in the game of life. There are many exceptionally talented and smart people watching on the sidelines of life because they were never quite able to focus and follow through on the multiple other facets of success besides innate ability. However, if they had someone on their side giving them wisdom and advice for successful living, the sky could have been the limit!


So what exactly is a life coach and why might you need one? A coach is a professional guide, someone who is dedicated to helping you discover and realize your deepest dreams and desires for your life as well as helping to bring balance so that you can enjoy your family, career and important relationships to the maximum capacity.

My highly successful clients whom I have the privilege of coaching have told me that the primary benefits of coaching for them have been:

1.) Resolving problems relatively easily because of having a different perspective on the situation.


2.) Feeling relief from carrying the burdensome task of planning to achieve their goals alone


3.) The accountability that comes through having a coach who keeps them focused and on track toward destination success.


I am pleased to offer these personalized coaching services to you too. If you are ready to launch your dreams and goals to go to the next level of success, I would be honored to help get you there. CME is now offering online monthly E-coaching services at an affordable price. If you are interested in E-coaching or standard coaching services just click HERE and see what CME has to offer you.


Enjoy your weekend!

What's Stopping You From Winning?

Cynthia Murray: Posted Friday, January 24, 2014

It is vitally important to your success that you take time to examine what you want out of your life and career. After all...time is ticking. You owe it to yourself to live out the life that you were destined to live with happiness and satisfaction, ultimately - your success.


So, if after considering what you really want, you determine that you are not satisfied with where you are in life and in the pursuit of your goals and dreams, then ask yourself, 'What in the world is stopping me from winning?"


At our 2014 CYNTHIA MURRAY ENTERPRISES Successful Leading Conference yesterday, expert coach, Jim Roman CEO of the Business Owner's Institute in Richmond, Virginia asked the class these questions which he says are the four drivers to success:


1. Why do you do what you do?


2. Where do you see yourself in the future?


3. What do you really want to do with your life?


4. When are you going to start doing what it is you want to do?

These are essential questions that every person and definitely every leader should ask of themselves and those on their team. Why spend one more day without bringing the balance to your life that is needed? You may not need to quit you day job just to start working at and towards the thing that you love to do? Is it golf, music, cycling, teaching?


Jim told of a story of one of his clients who worked as a prison guard and was counting the days until retirement. When pressed by Jim, he revealed that what he really wanted to do was teach. Like any good coach, Jim prompted him to seek avenues in which to teach. His client found that he could actually teach in the penal system. He did not have to leave his agency to begin doing what he loved.


In my book, The Power of A Plan: 10 Keys to Achieving Your Goals and Winning, I help readers to focus on these questions and formulate a plan to achieve their goals and live their dreams. I talk about vision and knowing what you want to do, then seeing yourself succeeding at it.


There is a chapter on discerning the right time to start, pause or dive right into the deep end of the pool of your dream. There's even an entire chapter devoted to helping you determine where you need to be for maximum success. You may be in the right place, but perhaps it's time to change departments, companies, cities or even countries to be planted in best place for you to win. 

It's never too late to pursue your passions, but don't let another minute go by. The prison guard that we talked about died before ever being able to retire though he was counting down the days. What about you? Are you pursuing your passion or counting down the days until __________________ (fill in the blank)? Actually, there is something that you can do right now today to put your dream in motion. Before long, you will see it take wings and fly!


Cynthia Murray is the founder and CEO of Cynthia Murray Enterprises, LLC


She is a speaker, coach, author and attorney. To subscribe to Weekly Winning Strategies! sign up on our Home Page and start receiving them now free! Click here. To purchase a copy of The Power of A Plan and other books by Cynthia click here and visit our Successful Living Products Page.


To contact Cynthia Murray for your next special event, training workshop or to arrange Life or Executive Coaching services, write to us on our Contact Us Page. 

What's Your "Why?" - Success Through Purpose

Cynthia Murray: Posted Wednesday, January 15, 2014

This week's blog is based off of a recent Facebook post that I wrote as I was confronted with my New Year "self-check". In my book, The Power of A Plan: 10 Keys to Achieving Your Goals and Winning" I discuss how vital it is to periodically go back to your purpose and establish why you are doing what you do. I call it a "self-check."


Why are you pursuing a particular dream? Why are you in that career, company or department? Is it strategic? Is it a stepping stone to a bigger accomplishment? What drives you to get up early and stay up late doing what you're doing everyday? Has money, status, or notoriety become the pursuit or even obsession?


Too often we work ourselves almost to death pursuing a dream or goal and we lose sight of the reason behind our pursuit. We take our eyes off the true prize and get in a vicious cycle of just trying to "succeed" by meeting some artificial metric. That's a tragedy!


Success is all about fulfilling your assignment in the earth whether you impact one person a day or one million. Never underestimate the power of purpose! When you come back to and stay focused on your true purpose in life the positive impact will become exponential and the numbers will grow anyway

On Facebook I wrote, "What's your "Why?" Weird question, I know. I was challenged this morning to ask myself what's the fundamental purpose behind my ministry and business. "Why?" is a profound question that demands an answer from each person. We don't have to go through another year struggling, toiling and living an unhappy life void of purpose! Seeing yourself succeeding is good, but sometimes we get so caught up in an image of our own success that it becomes an idol. Passion without purpose is lust. My "why" is comforting and encouraging people to live in victory. It's my assignment for Christ and I am honored to do it. I'm hoping you find your "why" today!


If you'd like to share your "why" with us, we want to hear it! Write to us or add a comment to the blog. Your story will encourage others to find theirs too!


Cynthia Murray is the founder and CEO of Cynthia Murray Enterprises, LLC


She is a speaker, coach, author and attorney. To subscribe to Weekly Winning Strategies! sign up on our Home Page and start receiving them now free! Click here. To purchase a copy of The Power of A Plan and other books by Cynthia click on the book cover photo above.


To contact Cynthia Murray for your next special event, training workshop or to arrange Life or Executive Coaching services, write to us on our Contact Us Page. 

Pick Your Battles: Handling Office Conflict

Cynthia Murray: Posted Tuesday, March 18, 2014

In this new year, everyone has something that they want to change and improve in their business, life or relationships. But, too often we let the good intentions stop at just the idea and we don't actually take a step forward to change. Or, people take a few steps then falter and come to a screeching halt only to turn back to "the same old, same old." Simply stated, we just don't move! Why is that? What is it about change that can stop us dead in our tracks. I'ts death by status quo.


People can talk a big game about new market techniques, long range strategic plans, weight loss or any other improvement goal, but nothing will ever change if they don't commit to implement a change and then move out!


Let's talk about some of the obstacles to positive change and leap over them;


1. People are creatures of habit. From an old comfy chair or an antiquated filing system to an outdated or too small pair of pants, people tend to hold onto the familiar. Routine and consistency have an air of security about them. That's fine if you're talking about a child's security blanket, but not when we're talking about the success of a business or the future of your life and career. It's amazing how strong a motivator (or de-motivator) familiarity can be. 

For example, in my years of experience as a criminal prosecutor I found that many women would stay in an abusive relationship because they did not know what life without the abuser would be like. They were afraid of the unknown and would not leave because they had become familiar with that horrible lifestyle, even learning how to avoid getting beaten up (which never worked anyway). The problem is that is a Band-Aid fix to life threatening problem.


Your case may not be as serious as an abusive relationship, but think about any area of your life that desperately needs a makeover and upgrade. Don't be afraid to try something new. The new change will take some getting used to, but the effort at the beginning will be well worth the improvement. It's what I can Non-Recurring Engineering (NRE), a term I learned well at Northrop Grumman. It's valuable up-front effort that is necessary to the success of a project, but won't have to be repeated again and makes similar follow-on projects that much easier and efficient. So, roll up your sleeves and put forth some NRE to upgrade your life and career!


2. Fear of Failure. Some people stick with the status quo because they are afraid to fail. Insecurity, low self-confidence or low self-esteem can keep you prisoner and sequestered from your own goals and dreams. Fear is a big old bully that must be confronted and conquered once and for all. Let's look at it this way, you could try something new and fail. It's true. However, all you will have learned are some things to do differently next time. Some of the greatest people in history bombed from time to time, but the reason you and I know their name is because they did not give up on themselves and they finally succeeded. For example, this famous American walked out on stage before a crowded audience to do his first stand-up comedy act and froze. He was booed off of the stage! He "failed" big time! But, he came right back out the next night and wowed them. Who was he? None other than Jerry Seinfeld and he's a tough act to follow, but something tells me you've got what it takes to succeed too.


3. "The way we've always done it". A mentality that just because something has been done a certain way for a long time means it is the best or only way to do it is a sure fire way to keep from moving ahead to better things. There are far too many wonderful experiences potentially being missed simply because you don't want to try something different. The fact is, even something that has been working well deserves to have a look under the hood every now and then to see if changes can be made to improve the way of doing things.


Hey, transportation by horse was great until the Model T came along and the Model T worked well until modern cars came on the scene. You can take a concept and improve upon it, but you'll never advance until you try to make it better. Are you tying to lose weight? Don't knock cooking with coconut oil until you've tried it! If some change that you make doesn't work, you can always tweak it or go back to the former way until another improvement idea comes along. Be creative and willing to think outside of the box before saying a new idea won't work.

So, if you're ready for positive change in your life, business or family, this is the perfect time to get up and make that change! Then when people look for the old you and the old way of doing things you can put up a sign that says, "Sorry, we've moved!"


Cynthia Murray is the founder and CEO of Cynthia Murray Enterprises, LLC


She is a speaker, coach, author and attorney. To contact Cynthia for your next special event or training workshop, write to us on our Contacts Page at [email protected] To find out more about CME services visit us on the web at www.cmurrayenterprises.com. To subscribe to Weekly Winning Strategies! sign up on our Home Page and start receiving them now free! Click here.


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Successful Leading Conference to be held on 01.23.2014 in Charlottesville, Virginia on our Events Page! 

What Do You Have Planned...For Your Future?

Cynthia Murray: Posted Saturday, January 4, 2014

You would not begin to build a house without first having plans, but too often people go about their lives without a plan for the future. I don't know about you, but my future is much more important than a building or a house.


In order to have a good plan for your future it is important to consider the things that you really want out of life. That's the first and most important step. You must know what you want and be committed to arriving at destination happiness. You owe it to yourself to take the time to reflect and contemplate the desires that you have for your career, family, investments and even your community. One thing is assured - without a map or plan to get there, you likely will not arrive.


Your future success is contingent upon a strategic personal plan. This plan may contain higher education, buying or selling a home, moving to another city, state or country. Take time to consider the people who are important in your life and who you want to be with you to share in your dream future. Do you see yourself surrounded by a loving, devoted spouse and children? Are you a lone ranger globe trotting and making friends all over the world, but never settling down in any one place? Would your be happy to have your aging parents to come and live with you in their winter years?

Your plan is specific and unique to you. It's like a fingerprint or DNA. No one else has your exact dream or future. While others may have similar goals, the plan that you create will also be unique to fit your personal situation.


Take time this weekend to write down your thoughts about the future and the next 1, 5 and 10 years. Where do you see yourself? Allow yourself to dream. Dreaming is free, but failing to dream costs you everything!


As you enter the weekend, my hope for you is that your mind and imagination are wide open to consider the possibilities, what you really want and what your future could be. If you would like to know more on this great topic, stay tuned on our website for my new book soon to be released: The Power of A Plan: 10 Keys to Achieving Your Goals and Winning!


Happy dreaming!

Succeed with Change in 2014!

Cynthia Murray: Posted Thursday, January 2, 2014

Many people are exhausted and exasperated by the events of 2013 in their lives, careers and/or relationships because things did not turn out the way they'd hoped, expected or planned.

Disappointment can lead to depression or at the very least discouragement can set in - even apathy to attempt to move or make a positive change. I can hear someone saying, "What's the use? I tried last year and it did not work. Why should I try again?"

Good question. Let's talk about 3 reasons why and how you should try again:

1. Change your perspective. Perhaps you need to look at the circumstance from another perspective or even through the eyes of another person on the "outside" to gain victory over a situation. Many times we can look so long at a situation that we can only see one solution and if that has not worked we think it can't be overcome. Counselors, consultants and coaches can help you to see your situation in an entirely different light and help you solve a problem in a fraction of the days, weeks and months that it has taken you to only beat your head against the wall. If you're only seeing an old woman in this optical illusion and not a young woman with a white feathered hat and necklace, ask a friend to show you.

2. Change your focus. Don't focus so much on the obstacle to your success, but rather on the object of your success. I'ts true, you might not be able to go over a mountain, but it may be possible to go around it or through it! Stay focused on what you want, not on what's in your way. Determination can drive you forward like a bulldozer straight through that mountain!

3. Change your mind. Maybe the obstacle has in fact been removed, but you stopped trying to overcome it. Sometimes when we experience a negative circumstance or problem so long that we come to believe that nothing can or will change. I am reminded of how elephants are trained. Their leg is tied to a tree as the grow and mature. The chain that binds them is too strong and try as they might they cannot get free. When they are fully grown the chain is removed, but the elephant does not try to escape because it has been conditioned to believe that it cannot be free from the chain.

We too can be in a frustrating situation so long that it may seem that there is no use trying to succeed because we have tried many times without any success. You start to think or say things like, "I'll never get promoted." "This company is doomed to close." "I'll never find love again." "I can't lose this weight."


I am here to tell you to never stop checking to see if the chain is still there. Never give up trying to live your life freely and victoriously. You just may discover that the resistance is gone and you CAN do it after all.


Cynthia Murray is the founder and CEO of Cynthia Murray Enterprises, LLC


She is a speaker, coach, author and attorney. To contact Cynthia for your next special event or training workshop, write to us at [email protected] To find out more about CME services visit us on the web at www.cmurrayenterprises.com. To subscribe to Weekly Winning Strategies! sign up on our Home Page and start receiving them now free! Click HERE!


Don't forget to register for the

Successful Leading Conference to be held on 01.23.2014 in Charlottesville on our Events Page!